| Anastasiya and Nadiya Nov. 2009 With healthcare costs rising maybe this isn't too far fetched! |
My husband is a software engineer so he supports our family while I stay at home with the kids. It can be hard work. When the kids were small I remember thinking that teaching middle school was easier.
For a typical family this would be enough and financially we would have be in good shape. Unfortunately we aren't a typical family and Nadiya was unstable during those early years and required frequent hospitalization. Our insurance at the time covered some of Nadiya's needs but not enough. I remember constant battles with the insurance company and the hospital over coverage and billing errors. It consumed my days in between caring for Nadiya and meeting her sister's needs as well. We even had to take out a home equity loan to pay Nadiya's medical bills. Today we have better insurance but it still isn't enough for Nadiya. The company often denies Durable Medical Equipment (DME) and other things like medical diapers. The co-pays are high and we pay a large portion for Nadiya's medications especially her compounded drugs.
Repeatedly we have tried to get Nadiya assistance. Nadiya does not qualify for Medical assistance. Since her father has a job where he makes a fair salary she does not qualify based on income regardless of her medical condition and needs. We are forced to pay out of pocket for many of her needs. Caring for a profoundly disabled child is expensive. For the same reasons Nadiya does not get Social Security. Because she does not get Medical Assistance she does not qualify for Rare and Expensive Medical (REM). These government assistance plans are set up so that you get it all or you get nothing. Nadiya gets nothing. At the same time, as a middle class family we pay very high taxes in our state and do not get a tax break for managing Nadiya's needs without assistance.
| How well was your physician trained? Do they specialize in pediatrics? |
Middle class families can apply for Low Intensity Support Funding (LISS) which provides $3,000 a year to disabled children regardless of income. This is a first come first serve basis and only if funding id available and they approve your application. We will applied for funding for a year's worth of weekly physical therapy co-pays totaling about $2,000. Nadiya was denied because the LISS funds were depleted after the first day. Nadiya's application is stamped July 2nd which was day two of them accepting applications. It is disheartening that this has happened. Now LISS, which was the only available support for Nadiya, has become an ineffective source of support for Nadiya.
| Can you afford the advancements in science? (Anastasiya conducting a chemistry experiment) |
As the system is set up now families who stay together are not rewarded, in fact they are penalized. If we placed Nadiya in foster care she would be covered. If David abandoned us we'd all be covered. If David or I had a substance abuse problem or a physical or mental illness that we refused to treat we would be covered. Because we work hard to stay together and manage Nadiya's care we are not covered. In fact our government expects us to cover entitlements with the tremendous amount of taxes they are taking from David's paycheck and as I said we do not even get a tax break for managing Nadiya's care. This is a broken system that leaves the disabled children of middle class families behind.
| February 2009- at 5 years old Nadiya was diagnosed with Lennox Gastaut after an extensive inpatient EEG. |
Before you say that middle class families can better afford this I need to put things into perspective for you. We have insurance and for a typical, healthy family this might be OK. Here is the breakdown of medical costs for Nadiya. I am sure it is similar for other middle class families with a disabled child who are in our position.
A significant chunk of money comes out of David's salary for our benefits. That amount just increased as of January 1st and will likely go up again next year. It costs us $30.00 for Nadiya to see the pediatrician when she is sick. During the winter that is frequent. Nadiya sees many specialists. Usually we average one specialist per month but sometimes more. This September Nadiya will see 3 specialists. The co-pay for a specialist is $40.00 per visit. In addition Nadiya has several prescriptions filled each month at the regular pharmacy ranging from $9.00 to $45.00 each and the shipped compounded medications are even more expensive.
Nadiya's Nano vitamin and
| Medications can get expensive. |
| November 2010 - Nadiya 6 years old after bi-lateral hip surgery |
All of these things quickly add up every month. Even if Nadiya had Medicaid just as a co-insurance we would be able to manage much better. Right now there doesn't seem like there will be any relief in sight. To make matters worse our insurance is a self funded plan with no regulatory agency. They have final fiduciary over appeals and disputes so there is no recourse. A self funded plan does not answer to the insurance commissioner. With the push toward federal healthcare private insurance seems to be getting more and more costly and covering less and less.
The Problem Is Bigger Than My Family
If you have aging parents you probably have heard them complain about Medicare and their supplemental insurance as well. The costs are extreme for many and rising though they are on a fixed income. Don't misunderstand me though, I am not in favor of a universal healthcare system either. I think Healthcare reform is a better answer. Insurance companies have been given way too much power in deciding what your care should be and how your conditions should be treated. They determine which doctors you can see and how often.
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| Are all of the members of your surgical team in network? (Anastasiya and friends operate on a giraffe.) |
The only people who do not seem to be affect by this are people who are well. When you see a primary care physician once a year and your children rarely get sick, healthcare is not a huge concern. I think everyone should be aware that tragedy can strike anytime. Anyone can have a child with profound disabilities. I did everything right and had a healthy pregnancy with no family history of problems and yet I had a child who has multiple disabilities. People are surviving diseases and traumas that science could not treat decades ago. Healthcare Insurance needs to support these advancements in treatment, care, and diagnostic ability. From cancer to heart disease to epilepsy, trauma, and beyond. This issue can affect anyone at any time.
What is the Answer for Families with Disabled Children?
| Are you able to choose your own doctor or does your insurance company do that for you? |
I have said this before but I feel I need to say it again. At the end of the day our country is proud of its diversity. Groups will advocate for their race, religion, sexual orientation, age, or gender but the disabled often have no voice of their own. Their caregivers are exhausted and so this group is overlooked. We must address the needs of disabled Children in Maryland regardless of their class or whether they have two parents over one. Let’s start looking at the severity of their disability and their intense needs.
| New discoveries are being made each year to advance medicine. Who knows what the next generation of scientists will discover. (Anastasiya's friend looks for a cure for the Giraffe's disease.) |
I will keep talking to the politicians and keep advocating for middle class families with disabled children. The more voices that sound together the stronger the message will be. The only way to force change is to get involved. People ask me if Nadiya is covered all of the time. I begin my answer with, "That depends..." Everyone wants to believe that all disabled children have affordable medical care but the reality is that the middle class have been forgotten. If the middle class is forced into bankruptcy who will take care of everyone else? In the meantime if you or your child become seriously ill are you covered?

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